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The Process of Letting Go

March 12th, 2008

A friend asked me the other night, “Do you miss your kids?” My first and honest response was, “Would I sound like a bad mother if I said, ‘No’?” The truth is, I think about my children all the time. I hope they’re happy; I hope they are making the most of their college educations and studying hard. I continue to worry about them — Are they making wise choices? Do they have good friends? Are they getting enough to eat? BUT, do I miss them? Do I pine away for them wishing I was still an active and integral part of their lives and could interact with them every day? The answer is, “No!” I’ve let go of that part of being a mother. And, I think for each of us, that letting go has been a good thing; less pain on my part and less guilt on theirs. This is the start of their independent lives.
Do I still advise them and let them know my opinion? You betcha…that part of “mothering” will be with me til the day I die. More to follow.

Entry Filed under: Daily Routines for Kids